Courtney and Melissa talk about the gap between our high expectations for the holidays and the disappointment we often feel in others or in ourselves. They discuss how to be proactive in preparing our hearts to hope in the Lord rather than in perfection, how to bear the fruit of the Spirit while meeting the practical needs of those around us, and how inviting nonfamily into family holidays can bring great blessing.

Whether you’re excited about Thanksgiving and Christmas or tired just thinking about them, listen to this conversation and be encouraged.

Resources Mentioned: 

• 6 Ways to Prepare for a Holiday That Will Disappoint (printable)
• Verse Cards to Prepare for a Holiday That Will Disappoint (printable)
• The Gift of All Gifts by Melissa Kruger
• Unto Us: 25 Advent Devotions About the Messiah edited by Winfree Brisley and Jared Kennedy
• The Weary World Rejoices: Daily Devotions for Advent edited by Melissa Kruger

Related Content:

• This Thanksgiving, Come to the Table
• How Not to Gossip During the Holidays
• Preparing for Advent Season

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

1. How have your expectations for the holidays changed over time?

2. In what ways can unrealistic expectations set us up for disappointment? What helps you hold your expectations in a healthy way?

3. What’s one thing you’re especially looking forward to and one thing you anticipate may be challenging this holiday season?

4. What rhythms or practices help you cultivate gratitude—both during the holidays and throughout the rest of the year?

5. What conversations or interactions do you want to intentionally prioritize this holiday season, and what might that look like in practice?

6. How can your church, small group, or family support those experiencing grief, loneliness, or unmet expectations this season?

7. Which fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22–23) do you most want God to grow in you this holiday season, and why?